Man Earns the Wrath of the Web After Insisting His Fiancee’s Autistic Sister Not Be Invited to the Marriage ceremony
We love it when internet users come together to set the record and hit the hammer on the most skilled idiots like this one. Get ready to be angry about this story at the same time and also to be warm and hazy inside when you hear how people reacted.
Recently, a bride-to-be turned to Reddit’s “Am I that a ** hole?” (AITA) subreddit to ask if she was wrong in refusing to heed her fiancé’s request to dump her sister from her own wedding. The groom was apparently concerned that the autistic sister might collapse at the event. However, the bride did not thank her, it was likely that her sister would cause problems. And of course she probably wanted her sister there, no matter if there was a problem, because, you know, they are sisters.
“My 15-year-old sister Nikki is autistic,” says the original poster. “She used to have breakdowns and behavior problems, but she hasn’t had these kinds of problems since she was five. She is a responsible child, often left home alone and sometimes babysitting for some of her neighbors. She is very happy about my wedding and I never thought that there would be a problem. “
The poster admits that her sister “is above average afraid,” but says it shouldn’t make a difference in her invitation status. “Just because certain things worry or upset her doesn’t mean she’ll break down in a completely independent event,” she writes.
The bride notes that her younger sister has been to “other weddings and big events” and never had a problem, but she says her fiancé James insists that the girl needs “shelter” and shouldn’t be invited to the wedding.
The post has received over 10,000 upvotes and comments, with the vast majority of people saying the original poster isn’t the asshole in this situation and that the groom is going too far in saying that his future sister-in-law shouldn’t be at the wedding , just in case she breaks down and makes a scene.
On this particular subreddit, posters ask readers, “Am I the asshole here?” and readers are asked to respond in one of four ways:
NTA – Not the a ** hole
YTA – You are the a ** hole
ESH – Everyone sucks here
NAH – No A ** holes here
This particular thread has received an overwhelming majority of “NTA” replies.
Reddit user EnthusiasticStoner says the groom was responsible for “clear and insulting ableism and bigotry” while comin_up_shawt branded it as a “piece of work” and suggested that the bride cancel the wedding. “Do you imagine that she herself was disabled? He would divorce her in a hot minute because ‘she needed too many accommodations,’ ”the commentator says.
Chance-Mood-889 adds: “NTA. Think again about inviting James to this wedding. “
“She should also consider whether she would like to have children with this person,” says drwhogirl_97. “Autism is very genetic, so there is a good chance any children who have it are autistic.”
Hundreds of them added their funny remarks and thoughtful ruminations, but they all had a common thread: the teenage sister with autism should be invited to the wedding and provided with proper accommodation if she needs or wants it. Commentators were more divided on whether to allow the groom to attend the wedding.
This thread just shows that while there are some real idiots in the world, most people really believe that people with autism deserve to be treated with the same dignity and respect as everyone else.
